DEALING OR CONTROLLING AGGRESSION/ANGER

Controlling Aggression is important but first of all, it is important to understand that anger is not always bad and according apa.org it is completely normal.

Aristotle said “The man who is angry at the right things and with the right people, and, further, as he ought when he ought, and as long as he ought is praised”.

He meant that it is right to be angry when you see injustice, or wrong-doing of some sort. But anger should not be taken to extremes

Anger and aggression offer very little benefit and many who loose these strong tendencies are force to pay the price with their own mental health as well as their relationships.

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Rage and anger occur occasionally and although one should not submit to them. When they occur frequently, they ruin families, social and work relationships.

Controlling Aggression: On the enraged, the following effects of rage are eminent:

• They feel isolated from family and friends who avoid them because of their bad temper.
• They experience guilt feelings after their rage attack
• They have a more conflictive marital relationship
• They are likely to use psychoactive substances (tobacco, alcohol, drugs…)
• They are at higher risk of dying young

To know whether you are prone to anger, answer YES or NO to these questions

• Have you ever been angry to the point of hitting someone or something?
• Do you get upset at yourself whenever you cannot control your emotions?
• Does it bother you when you have to queue up?
• When you disagree with your friends, do you end up in a heated arguments?
• Is it very hard for you forget the bad things others did to you?
• After a show of bad temper, do you experience a strong desire to eat, smoke or drink alcohol to compensate for the distress?

If you have answered YES to 4-5 questions, this is a warning that you are not far from danger. You must develop patience and tolerance.

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How to avoid anger and aggression

It is necessary to observe oneself and adopt simple habits of peace and calm.

• Consider the true extent of the situation
• Breathe deeply and calm yourself
• Try an assertive solution: avoid messages said to other such as, ‘you are selfish’, you always do this to me’, you never care about what I think…’
• Do not look at the opponent as an enemy
• Practice forgiveness.
• Pray to God who will in His infinite mercy grant you fruit of the spirit

Remember:

In your anger do not sin, Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry (Ephesians 4:26)

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